Process and healing of sexual abuse If someone has sexually abused you by force or under psychological pressure, you feel powerless and overwhelmed. You might feel dirty and used, as if you are worth nothing, a thing. It is generally an acquaintance who commits the sexual abuse. In many cases it is so that you try to change the mind of the offender or that you are trying to fend him or in all possible ways trying to prevent that the offender proceeds to more violence. If this fails you can shut down your feelings for what happens and you disconnect your mind from your body, your mind ‘flees’ in a way. It is like your mind makes no longer part of your body and at that time you have a passive response to the moment. Afterwards you can feel guilty about it. You may feel guilty by thinking you have provoked it yourself, that you've been too nice against the offender, you were present at the wrong time in the wrong place or you were dressed too provocative. It may be that you feel that you should have done more to prevent it. As a result, you can react very emotionally or just do the opposite, you are going to shut down your feelings. Maybe there are people who do not believe you or do not understand your pain because they cannot imagine the situation in which you were. You can find it difficult to let someone get too close or to trust someone. The fear and physical pain leave their marks in your mind. After many years these marks are still present. If you have not processed the abuse it continues to operate. You have to deal with feelings of distrust, feelings of shame and guilt, anger and depression Deep wounds are porous Scars, once broken wounds A learning cycle of our souls
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Process and healing of sexual abuse If someone has sexually abused you by force or under psychological pressure, you feel powerless and overwhelmed. You might feel dirty and used, as if you are worth nothing, a thing. It is generally an acquaintance who commits the sexual abuse. In many cases it is so that you try to change the mind of the offender or that you are trying to fend him or in all possible ways trying to preventthat the offender proceeds to more violence. If this fails you can shut down your feelings for what happens and you disconnect your mind from your body, your mind ‘flees’ in a way. It is like your mind makes no longer part of your body and at that time you have a passive response to the moment. Afterwards you can feel guilty about it. You may feel guilty by thinking you have provoked it yourself, that you've been too nice against the offender, you were present at the wrong time in the wrong place or you were dressed too provocative. It may be that you feel that you should have done more to prevent it. As a result, you can react very emotionally or just do the opposite, you are going to shut down your feelings. Maybe there are people who do not believe you or do not understand your pain because they cannot imagine the situation in which you were. You can find it difficult to let someone get too close or to trust someone. The fear and physical pain leave their marks in your mind. After many years these marks are still present. If you have not processed the abuse it continues to operate. You have to deal with feelings of distrust, feelings of shame and guilt, anger and depression
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